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Nanette Geiger, Relationship Coach , writes… …

Donna from North Carolina wrote me to ask me that question As a Law of Attraction relationship coach, here’s the relationship advice I have for her. Donna, I’m so glad that you know that you definitely need to release the hurts for your past before you can successfully attract a new and lasting love.

The Law of Attraction states “you attract more of what you focus on.” Before we can find and keep love, clearing out the past and healing old wounds is necessary. The past takes up emotional space. It’s impossible to occupy a space when that space is already taken. You wouldn’t dream of pouring more coffee into a full coffee cup. That’s what is happening energetically when you try to do that in a relationship.

You can get online Law of Attraction relationship coaching to teach you how to create emotional space as a way of clearing that out. You want to look at what energy you’re holding about the hurt. There’s a story you’re telling yourself that is playing out as a truth for you. Once you clear out that stuck energy pattern, you’ll be able to welcome in the one who will light up your life..

You may have a smile on your face and be dressed to the nines with a smile on your face, but you’ve got this energy field you’re dragging around that’s draining your energy and killing the possibility of living a happy fulfilling life in relationship~As long as you’re dragging around the past with all the drama and trauma, it doesn’t matter where you go or how good you look, you won’t be completely fulfilled.

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Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Best Selling Author , writes… …

Beau from Australia asked me for advice on how he can really KNOW if she is on her way?

Beau, thanks for your question. You’re not alone. I get that question asked a lot. Any time it comes to matters of the heart, we can feel vulnerable. So asking for love advice is the first place to start.

Applying the advice I give on love and the Law of Attraction doesn’t have to be difficult, but there are some ideas you need to understand that will help you gain stability in attracting your love.

Your question demonstrates low levels of belief or expectancy. And I understand. I had a lot of failure before I got the love of my dreams. Once I got really clear of what what in my way, by way of low expectation and limiting beliefs, my beloved showed up really fast.

Have you ever planted anything from seed? Eventually, you’ll get a plant if you follow the simple directions. When you plant your seeds you water them when needed, plant them where they’ll get ample sunlight and in time, a plant sprouts. You wouldn’t dream of going out into the garden every other hour scratching at the ground wondering if you did it right, if the plant will sprout, or if someone removed the seed. That’s the energetic equivalent of doubting that the Law of Attraction love advice will deliver what we want.

It’s your job to emit a clear unimpeded signal. To get your vibration in alignment to actually allowing or receiving the love of your dreams. To really know, not just speculate that it may, hopefully happen, some day.

The difference between speculation and experiential knowing is just a matter of practicing new thoughts.

The problem with most of these habits of speculation, hoping, etc. is that they’ve been taught to us and have gone unquestioned. Rarely looked at to see what fits, what needs to be updated, and what needs to be thrown out entirely.

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Is letting go of the past emotionally abusive relationship hard for you? 
It is understandable that it is difficult to trust whatever you do with a new person in your life?
If it looks like your feelings and memory of emotional abuse are being stirred up from your past experience with your new partner, you may not have a clear idea of what a healthy relationship is like.

Emotional abused situations in past relationships may have taught you defensive positions that makes your new relationship impossible. But keep in mind that it all boils down to every choice that you make in life. If you know that you need to trust your new partner, but can’t due to what happened to you in the past, then it’s time to change and see things in mere perspective. Be proactive, instead of dwelling in the negative. If you do something about your relationship, you will definitely see results.

Whatever verbal or emotional abuse happened in the past relationship it’s sure that we ended up owning the responsibility for the failure.” Truth is nothing can change the past. BUT you can make a new history. You deserve a chance to make things better.

A normal love relationship includes being able to talk freely about your fears and feelings openly with your partner and working through problems together with compassion and understanding for each other. 

There are basic needs in a a healthy relationship
– The need for encouragement, persistence and patience.
– The need to build a solid underlying friendship.
– The need to be heard by the other and to be responded to with respect and acceptance.
– The need to embrace change and know that it takes work in building a better relationship.
– The need for your own time.

What you should do? Change your behavior or routine to avoid remembering the past. If he encourages you to move on and have a better life with him, this means he understand and can be trusted. Always remember – It’s up to you to express yourself. Be honest and clear. Because this is your chance to say exactly what you need emotionally to be treated well. It is very important you choose to be happy in the here and now; You deserve to be happy. Even without a partner. The key is to love yourself.

Neil Warner
Positve Conflicts
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Free Video Reveals #1 Love Secret

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Expert , writes… …

Fran from Idaho asked the question “How do I find my ideal partner?”

Asking how to find love is important.. Before you can attract what you want in your ideal relationship, you need to be absolutely sure what you want and what you won’t accept. What do you want?

Many people just figure that they’ll wait and see who shows up and decide from there. But that conveys a weak desire That conveys a weak desire and sends the universe crossed signals. I’ve always found that a good life coach helps a great deal.

I suggest that you dig deep into your heart of hearts. You can keep your personal work private. But you do want to make a detailed list. As you’re writing your list, pay attention to the way you feel. Do you feel excited and expectant or anxious and full of doubt? This is an energy diagnostic that will tell you how strong your attraction signal is. If you’re doubtful, then simply work on what it will feel like when…..

• When you’re fulfilled in the love of your dream
• When you have that special one to plan weekends with
• When your family meets him for the first time and everyone gets on splendidly

Find what it will feel like, AS IF, it’s already happened.

Another important question is, ”What limiting beliefs are standing in the way of you allowing in your desire? Most of the time, because of our conditioning to sell ourselves short play it safe and other limiting beliefs, we don’t move forward in our relationship quest with much determination. That is, we have the energy of low expectancy that hangs us up in allowing our desires to be fulfilled.

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What’s the one thing you want most at this moment in time? Maybe I can help you if you said you wanted to know how to win your ex back. I know how to win someone back. It doesn’t matter who broke up with who, I don’t know or need to know details to help you. I also was dumped a while back and I know only too well how it hurts.

The fact that we’d broke up had totally taken over my life. There’s me thinking things were going great and bam! she’s walked out. Talk about a surprise. As guys, we tend to take our woman & relationship for granted after a while. And that sometimes results in our downfall.

When we split, I didn’t have the first idea how to get my wife back. I simply knew I needed to. I was doing the same as you are now, searching the net for answers. There was lots of sites with little chunks of advice, but never the full answer.

I wasn’t stupid enough to think I could buy a magic bullet on the net and win her back with it. But I knew I needed a system of some type. A system of little moves that I could follow one by one. All the time I’m worrying that she could have already gone off into the distance with a new guy.

I ended up on a site selling an ebook about getting back together and all the magic surrounding it. Yeah right! I thought hell to it, may as well give it a whirl. After all, I had little left to lose, but maybe something to gain.

I didn’t really know what to expect but I certainly wasn’t expecting a section on psychological mind games. Now I was pleased I’d taken the plunge. Was I gonna lay some psycho babble on my ex, you bet I was. Turns out it wasn’t no serious hypnosis stuff that I was quite concerned about, but psychological tactics that are subtle and sweet.

Didn’t mean the tactics weren’t as powerful as I’d expected. In fact they worked better than I thought. I used the systems advice to make contact with her again. They even outline just how to do this. Quite craftily as well I might add. We agreed to meet up for a coffee and from then on, sticking to the system rules, it seemed I was in total control.

My ex just didn’t have a clue that I was quietly controlling the situation. She still doesn’t realise I’m doing it now. I have full confidence that if we ever breakup again it will be for the shortest time. I have the skills to get her back.

You’ve got 2 ways you can go down now if you want to win her back. You can do as you are now and blindly stumble forward hoping for a lucky break. Or decide to get a system to show you how to win her back. And then keep her.

Ok, let’s cut to the chase, you seek to get your boyfriend back. Let’s hope you mean get him back in your arms and not get some type of revenge on him. It doesn’t matter what he’s done you should not disrespect yourself by trying to wreak revenge on him. If that’s your aim, get yourself out with another hot guy. That will certainly hurt your ex.

You are going to need to know a couple things if it’s getting back together that you want. It isn’t going to happen on its own; you will have to make it happen. I know you’re probably asking how do I make it happen. There are some crafty methods!

I hope I can put you on the right road to learning how to win him back. It’s important not to crawl back to him pleading and begging. Him viewing you as immature and needy won’t score you any points. Have no contact at all with him for a few weeks. You can get yourself in his thoughts by not being in his face.

He can’t help being curious about your absence. When most men break up with a girl they expect her to come crawling & begging. It’s the vanity in men. They will expect you to beg, they want you to beg. In a sick way it makes them feel a little more powerful. Even better than ignoring him, get yourself out & about enjoying yourself. But make sure he hears about it.

He will be even more curios and a bit jealous when he finds out about that little move. He may have ended things but if he thinks you are moving on with your life so quickly it will start to get to him, believe me! Most guys have such a weird view of the world he’ll be expecting you to spend the next year trying to recover from being dumped.

Let’s get back to getting your boyfriend back. Hard to believe but there are fully guaranteed systems on the web that claim to teach you what you need to win him back. A strange claim indeed, but it’s a strange world these days.

I broke up and was so wrecked that thought I’d give one of these a go. Had nothing else to lose right? I must admit I totally thought it would be a complete joke. I’m still amazed that it only took me a few months to get my ex back with the system.

I used the psychological tactics (in the bonus section) to get the upper hand in every situation without my ex even knowing. You can use these tactics to have your ex boyfriend literally eating out of your hand in no time at all.

To get your boyfriend back you are going to have to try something. Better to try something that’s worked countless times before, than attempt to go it alone.

If you have split up, then you may have already tried to repair your relationship.  But recently you hae probably come to the conclusion that you two just can’t be together.

Coming to terms with the memories that were a part of your life is a crucial part of the process of surviving a breakup.  This process will give you the ability to reconcile your past and look to tomorrow with hope.  Your breakup skills may be rusty, though, if you have anything in common with others.  It would not surprise me to know that you are contemplating the hardship of surviving this process by yourself.  Don’t worry; I’m here to help.  Below you will discover two great steps that will help you cope with these changes.

For similar links on a similar subject, this link is clickable to gather information on Survive Breakup-Part 2.

It’s possible that your friends have discussed with you the importance of a process you must go through before you can move on.  These levels are, in order: denial, anger, bitterness, and coming to terms with it.  These stages do exist, but they don’t always happen in a straight line.  Here’s a good example: it is possible for a person to feel bitter while still denying the situation, or being enraged while accepting it.

To stay away from confusion,  we’ll divide the stages into two: looking inward and reflection.  We’ll start off by talking about introspection.

Taking Time to Rest and Not Do Anything to Get Them Back.

If you’re like most people in this situation, then the relationship between you and your partner took a nose dive after a great start.  Jealousy, stress over money, infidelilty, and lifestyle differences probably led to a feeling that there wasn’t anything good anymore in your relationship.

What do you do with things that have gone bad? You either fix it or toss it to the side.

Before people who have broken up can make it through hard times, they have to heal emotionally and rid themselves of bad influences.  Do you believe you can handle this kind of hardship with a head that isn’t screwed on tight? Probably not. The decline of your relationship and your morale and spirit can all be categorized and grouped into a single term…problem.

By taking no action and being patient, you can rejuvenate your emotional health.  This means you have to refrain from contacting your ex, and must also refrain from spilling your guts to just anyone.  Believe it or not, not doing anything in this case is actually recommended.  By staying still, you are actually making yourself see the truth of the matter: you are single.  Other people are making it past the hurt, and you can too.

What you want to do at first when you experience pain is to act on your instincts.  You will make things unbearable for yourself if you let this happen.  In your heart you want to be back with your special person, which makes you believe it’s too late if you don’t do do something.  However, here is how it really is: chasing after him or her, or going crazy and dating randomly and frequently will cause the situation to deteriorate.  If you do not get your emotions in check, then pain will make you do the wrong thing.

Give Yourself Time.

To be introspective means to be calm and look inward.  Sorting through your emotions and being calm is a virtual requirement for surviving a break up and making it possible to have something to do with your friends, family, and ex once more.  If you can’t avoid your daily obligations, you can still take a break by convincing your loved ones to give you space.  If your loved ones understand, they will stay away until you are ready.

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I have witnessed, both within my own family, in the outside world and in my practice, what can happen in a relationship if there is no common bond that can actually bind a couple together.

Well, let me digress (or maybe, progress) and say a bit about getting together as a couple in the first place: even if there is a strong attraction, be it physical, mental or emotional: Love; That does not seem to be enough to keep a couple together; the body will wither, the mind will change and the emotions will flutter. And love may turn into a dependency or habit. Unless, there is a third entity; the glue that binds the one to the other; the bond that binds, a mutual goal and lifetime commitment to it. To see you through the inevitable tough times, you will need something greater than both of you; a driving force that can take both of you, like a boat down the river, or an ark during a flood …

In my opinion, there are two good bonds; children and Religion or a Spiritual Practice (to be more politically correct, or any other proven external disciplinary way of life that both parties agreed to commit to whole-heartedly, abide by, follow and emulate; the goal). With both of these present, the chances are multiplies exponentially. But, even with both of these, there are no garantees.

Without these, there is no common bond; it’s just two people living separate lives together: convenient for a nice meal, some ambience, safe sex, and the occasional meaningful conversation …

So, the intent or lifetime goal of both parties must be the same. Otherwise, both sides will be resentful, because, in any situation, for any important decision, no compromise can satisfy both of the parties, because their primary motivating goals are different; or they have no primary motivating goals and “just don’t feel like it” at the time. And so there is no improvement in the situation and resentments, anger, etc. build; and there is no possibility for a long-term relationship.

A tendency towards negativity, insecurity and fear/anxiety may sometimes seem to obscure love. But this is who the person is at the moment; and they are perfect the way they are.

Love may sometimes seem to be obscured by a tendency towards not wanting to be so depended upon by the other, for their happiness, security and emotional wellbeing. But this is who that person is at the moment; and perfect the way they are.

Much of this may stem from residual family entanglements. “Inherited” family control issues may the the cause of some behaviors. Some behaviors may come from family insecurity issues.

There are a few key issues that need to be kept in mind: Trust! Honesty! One must trust the other, as the right hand trusts the left. And one must be honest and trustworthy, inside the relationship and in the world at large as well; trusting yourself, being honest with yourself and trusting your partner and being honest with your partner, and being trustworthy and honest in all your dealings in the world. In other words, your thoughts, speech and actions should always be in line with a clear conscience.

There are times when you will feel rejected or abandoned, based on your perception of the situation. There is usually no reason to feel this way; from the other’s standpoint, it’s not about you, it may be about their family control issues.

At times you may feel that you would appear weak if you give in to the desires of the other. There is no reason to feel weak by giving in: remember the bond that binds; you can show your compassion and accommodation of what may be the other’s family insecurity issues.

Besides the above mentioned, or perhaps, because of the above mentioned, there may be a lack of real compassion and empathy on the part of both parties for each other. To see the world from the other persons heart and to trust the other person, that they are doing the best they can. To see them as perfect, the way they are. (That’s not to say that there is no room for improvement.) To realize the person is always more important than any ideology or material object or goal; the relationship comes first.

Perhaps ask; what’s the worst thing that can happen if the worst thing happens. Most of the time, when the dust settles, nothing too spectacular. Again, the third entity, the bond that binds, the trust in that everything that happens is only good.

There is a need for genuine compassion and complete acceptance of the other as perfect as they are; acknowledgement and acceptance of each others needs and idiosyncrasies and the commitment and willingness to live with them as they are, for as long as they are that way. And how can we come to such a point. History has shown, as do presetn day successful marriages, that there is a bond that binds one love ot the other. This “glue” comes in the form of a “third party”.

The other person; their feelings, hopes, dreams, goals must be your own as well: you are one; heads and tails of the same coin. One person, soul, living life in two bodies.

It says, “All beginnings are difficult”. And while this may be so, you can ensure that the trip will be worthwhile and pleasant for you and for all of those who love you, by heading in the right direction, with the right foot, for the right reasons, towards the right goal …

Abraham Bruck is the developer of the Universal Healing Technique and the UHT Lifetime Trauma Resolution Protocol.

If you are going through a break up right now and want to get her back, there’ are a few things you should understand. To make things easier, I’ll break it into four parts. Part 1) Understand just what is going on. Part 2) Get your head together. Part 3) Assess the situation. Finally part 4) Work the plan.

1) Understand what’s going on. What’s happening here apart from the obvious fact you’ve recently split up. If we look beyond the obvious here the breakup could be caused by a multitude of reasons. However most splits are simply caused by one or a couple of reasons.

If you did the breaking up it’ll be easier to work out how to fix it. If it was her who broke up with you then you need to work out what it was that caused the split. If it’s not clearly obvious like cheating I mean. Working out why she broke up will help you immensely in your quest to get her back.

2) Get your head together. It’s really important that you get your emotions under control before you attempt anything. Losing control after you’ve made a bit of progress will kill any chances of getting back together.

This one reason alone is why you must take the time to get your emotional self under control. Getting you emotions in check means you control any contact with your ex. You should score a few points as she will note how adult and under control you are these days. If she thinks you are immature and unable to control yourself you are losing points. At this stage you don’t want to lose points.

3) Assess the situation Ok, what does this mean? So far you know what’s going on from step 1; you also have you emotions under control from step 2. Now you need to look at the bigger picture and assess what you can do to put this mess right.

It’s at this point you need a guaranteed step by step system to follow. Something proven to work that, if followed correctly, you will end up with the outcome you want. There are some systems available on the net that claim to do just this, to hold your hand every step of the way. When I broke up and wanted to get my wife back I turned to just such a system.

To be honest I thought the whole idea of a system (a written down set of rules) to get my wife back was a total crock of crap. I didn’t think people could be manipulated with a handful of instructions in some eBook. I was quite wrong. I realised that we seem to follow the same rules, and mostly on an unconscious level.

It’s reasons like these that “get back together” methods seem to work well. I paid around 40 bucks for the system that got my wife back. If you want to make it easy on yourself in getting your ex back, read the review on my site. If you try to get her back without a plan you will fail. Make it easy on yourself and be armed with a system, and a plan. You can multiply your chances no end.

4) Work the plan Assuming you’ve got yourself a system you need to put it into action. It won’t do it by itself. In the system I used there was some great psychological tactics to help the plan along.

The bonus section on psychological mind games really opened my eyes. We are all being manipulated with psychological tactics every day. We are subject to the tactics almost every day by governments, ad agencies and even our employers. These tactics can give you immense power to control most situations with your ex. Without her even realising.

I’m not talking hypnosis here and getting her to do your bidding, that would be plain wrong. Simple psychological mind games like inviting her for coffee regularly. Maybe just to talk. Then as you see her at ease with the situation casually invite her to lunch. You then step up to an evening meal and then eventually a proper date.

This is the sort of mind games you can use. The system I got had a whole bonus section dedicated to psychological tactics and why they are so powerful. Understand these methods and cut months of the time it would take you to woo her back.

There you have the 4 steps to understanding and reversing a split. If you want a sure-fire easy way to get her back then take a look at the system I used. I’ve reviewed it on my site. Click to read how to get your wife back.

If you are asking the question – how do I get my girlfriend back – then I have an answer, but it takes a bit of work. Chances are you are here because you want to get her back. Maybe though you don’t know where to start. Call her & beg maybe?

Don’t do that, call & beg, as it will put a downer on your chances. You should take a few weeks out and not call her at all. I know how silly that sounds, but it really works.

She’s no doubt expecting you to call and beg if she was the one who broke up. Not calling her puts her off her stride and she starts to wonder what’s going on with you. She gets curious as to what you are doing and how the split is affecting you.

Clearly you are going to be a bit down but you don’t want her knowing that. You need to show her you are just fine if you meet up for any reason. Try to show her you are moving on and you’re better than ok.

This move usually gets a hint of jealousy inside her. Doesn’t matter if she did dump you, if she even thinks you might be over her she’s going to be a bit jealous. It’s an automatic reaction that she can’t help.

When I was trying to get my ex wife back I used this as my first move. I knew these tactics worked as my ex was asking about me on the quiet. I heard from a few friends about it. I used this to my advantage as I now knew for definite she was still interested.

After a while I invited her to go for a coffee, nothing major, just coffee. Of course, she accepted. We had coffee a few times and then I stepped it up to a lunch date. We had a few lunch dates before I was pretty confident she was totally at ease with me and being together.

If she seems comfortable then it’s time to step up to an evening date. Again after a few of these she starts to be at ease with us being together. It’s an easy step now to get her to stay over at my place.

You can see what’s happening here I’m sure. Slowly slowly moving her from one level to the next. When you see she’s feeling at ease you can move her up to the next level. She will never realise you are doing any of this. She just thinks things are moving at their own pace. In reality they aren’t!

These tricks are just a small part of the overall system that can answer your question – how do I get my girlfriend back -. I’ll admit now that none of this is my work; I was as lost as you probably are now when she first dumped me. I researched on the net and came across a step by step system to get my ex back.

I admit I just didn’t believe the hype. But I was happily proved wrong. We can all be easily manipulated. It’s a trait of the human race. Your girl will be no different. Discover these tactics and she will be back with you before you know it.

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